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Rightly timed pause

No word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause.- Mark Twain’s Speeches (1923 ed.)

While Mark Twain was referring to a pause in a play or story, a rightly timed pause is powerfully effective in many aspects of life.  

In conversation, most of us spend the time the other person is speaking planning what we are going to say next. Instead, listen to what the other is saying, pause and then respond authentically. 

When a boss just drops a bombshell on your desk, don’t go straight fight or flight. Instead pause, think about why this is happening and how this situation might be turned into a positive and then respond. 

Take the time. A deep breath’s worth. Take your rightly timed pause.  Your life will be richer for it. 

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Rightly timed pause

No word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause.- Mark Twain’s Speeches (1923 ed.)

While Mark Twain was referring to a pause in a play or story, a rightly timed pause is powerfully effective in many aspects of life.  

In conversation, most of us spend the time the other person is speaking planning what we are going to say next. Instead, listen to what the other is saying, pause and then respond authentically. 

When a boss just drops a bombshell on your desk, don’t go straight fight or flight. Instead pause, think about why this is happening and how this situation might be turned into a positive and then respond. 

Take the time. A deep breath’s worth. Take your rightly timed pause.  Your life will be richer for it. 

Fifteen minutes on Friday for a fabulous Monday

You’ve made it through the week.  Friday is finally here!!!  A couple more hours powering through the day and you get to enjoy the weekend.  I’m not going to go into how wrong it is if you are wishing away the week to live for the weekend.  At least, I won’t go into it in this post but there is a lot you can do today to make next Monday fabulous.

Take 10 minutes this afternoon.  Review what you have learned and accomplished this week.  Write it down.  What worked?  What didn’t work?  What would you do differently?  What are you going to do the same?  It make take a little longer at first, but with practice  this self review can be quick and effective.

Take another 5 minutes and leave your Monday self a note.  What does your Monday self need to accomplish next week?  Of course, your Monday self should spend a little time planning out the week.  A little note from your Friday self will help keep your focus and goals going strong next week.

An easy dream board hack to conquer procrastination

Vision and goal?  Check

Action plan?  Check

Tools and resources?  Check

Taking action?  . . . . . . . . well, maybe after I check Facebook……again.

Sound familiar?  Procrastination rears its ugly head in most of our lives at one point or other.  We allow procrastination to arrest our progress for many reasons.  Some of us procrastinate because we don’t really value our goal or we are unclear of what our vision really looks like.  Others of us are afraid of trying and failing or perhaps trying and looking like a fool.  Without a clear vision, it is easier to procrastinate because it is harder to prioritize more important tasks.  Still others are distracted because we are getting too much short term pleasure by whatever it is that is distracting us.

A lot of people can be helped by having a powerful dream board.  A dream board is when you spend time going through images, words and quotes that are meaningful to you, clip them out and stick them to a board.  The overall impact is to capture visually your dream and to force you to go through a process of thinking it through in detail.  By having this dream on one board in a place you see frequently, it helps many people prioritize their long term vision over their short term distractions.  The idea is this vision will be compelling enough to keep you moving forward.

Unfortunately, a compelling vision still isn’t enough.  I’ve known of hundreds of starting network marketers who know that picking up the phone is how to really jump start their business but are unwilling to actually pick up that phone.  They have a compelling vision.  They have a beautiful dream board.  They are also not picking up that phone.  The act of picking up the phone for a business person is simply too challenging or scary for them.  The phone is just one example.

There is a hack to help people who have a few tasks that are preventing them from realizing their ideal life.  Have them right down on sticky notes the things they are doing (or not doing) that are preventing them succeeding.  Ideally have them write down these things in first person, action oriented words.  For example, don’t just write “phone.”  Instead write, “I won’t make networking phone calls.”  Then have them put these sticky notes over the top of their dream board, partially blocking their dream.  Now when they look at their dream board, it shows them that their own decisions are blocking their progress.

Five ways a coach can help you reach new heights

1.) Define/Clarify your goals – Lost or confused?  Feel like you were meant for more but aren’t quite sure what that more looks like?  Is fear or procrastination preventing you from realizing the best YOU you can be?  A coach works with you to help you understand your “why,” your reason for being.  This “why” is inside you right now.  A coach simply helps you uncover it.

2.) Create your action plan – Goals are useless without a plan to realize them.  Without an action plan, no amount of effort will realize your goals.  Coaches work with you to create a series of milestones and the tasks it takes to reach them.

3.) Hold you accountable – Four crows sat on a fence.  One of them decided to fly away.  How many crows are still on the fence? . . . . . . Four.  Deciding to fly away is not flying away.  Goals and plans without action are merely dreams.  A weekly meeting with the coach keeps you on track.  A coach will help you recalibrate your goals and actions and help you overcome your obstacles.  A coach will hold you accountable.

4.) Focus your efforts – Success depends on effort consistently put in (hours) times the effectiveness of those hours.  Are you waisting time doing low value added tasks?  Are you allowing facebook, clutter, fear, over planning, etc. to eat up your hours without much progress?  Coaches help you separate effective tasks from time eaters.  You can then cut away those time eaters and work hard just on those tasks that will create results.

5.) Crank up your motivation – When you know what you want, why you want it and have a plan to obtain it, you can’t help but be motivated.  Once you start reaching milestones, your motivation will go through the roof.  Even so, it is normal and natural for short term motivation to take a break.  A coach can keep you productive and moving forward even during a motivation break.  Then a coach will help you stoke your motivation.