Only 8% of people succeed in their New Year’s Resolutions. That is 92% of people create a goal that is important to them, commit to themselves to go after the goal and then fail to achieve it. 25% of them don’t even make it through the first week before they give up on their goals. Most people simply aren’t willing to commit to their dreams.
One of the most common reasons people fail to achieve their goals is that they are afraid of failing. One study showed that a significant percent of people don’t even apply for jobs that might be a bit of a stretch. They are too embarrassed. What if they get the interview and aren’t qualified……how embarrassing! I hope you read that with as much sarcasm as I intended, because I intended a lot of sarcasm. Buckets and buckets full.
Imagine what you could accomplish if you were not afraid to fail. The reality is reality isn’t likely to be holding you back. It isn’t your education or your looks. It isn’t your speaking ability or your financial resources. These are obstacles but other’s have overcome them, why not you? Tom Petty is a singer? Some people think Keith Richards was a sex symbol? Donald Trump is the president? Think about that one for a minute. If these people achieved their goals, why not you?
Achieving a goal is like building a bridge. Slow down. Take a step, just one step today, and work toward your goal. Don’t worry about the end. Don’t worry about other people’s impression. Just take a step today and then another.
When a loved one is hurt, lost or just anxious, do you really need them to meet you half way? Right now, while they are in pain, do they really need to move to meet you at all? Love them unconditionally. Go to where they need you to be and love them. Just be available. Don’t put preconditions, obligations or expectations on your love. Simply accept them, not only who they are when they are at their best but accept them for who they are when they are at their worst. There is no score to keep in love.
We were at a pool over the weekend and a child was getting a private swimming lesson from one of the lifeguards. The kid was working to pass the deep end test but couldn’t quite get his backstroke right. The lifeguard told the boy, “Point your toes, when you kick.” The boy yelled, “That’s what I was doing!” That is the point when the boy stopped learning and improving. He was insistent that he was doing everything right, despite not getting the results he wanted.
How many times do we do that as adults? Whether it is from a boss, spouse, friend or co-worker, how many times has someone given us a positive critic but we took it as criticism. Sometimes it hurts to say that we aren’t doing something right. Sometimes it is hard to admit that we need to do better. Growth is hard but we can do it. Sometimes all we have to do is listen.
Nice story about a person creating the balance in life that works for her. In her case, she is an introvert who’s life demands a certain amount of extroversion.
“As an introvert, you need to know yourself. What you need, and what stresses you out. It’s not about what you can do. Most introverts can impersonate social butterflies when necessary. . . . It’s about balancing the cost of those performances with your own mental health.”
Source: What Doesn’t Kill Us Makes Us Stronger