Finish the statement “I should….” Five or more times. Now look at each statement. Does it have a meaningful impact on tour life? Where does it come from? Is it true for you now?
One of my clients is a wonderful woman who runs a small business. She impressed those who know her as strong, intelligent, competent and social. She sees herself differently. She sees herself as a girl who should do as she is told, let her betters take care of things and to basically stay out of the way.
When she did this excise, she realized that she was no longer a child. She no longer needed to listen to the adults. Her, as a child, was no longer true. She as the competent adult. She was one who’s voice should be heard.
After you do your “I should” exercise, try “I could” exercise next.
Are you still confined by what you were told as a child? Are you still living a life you “should” live? I would love to hear from you or share to someone who is trapped by their childhood.