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When we list out what our obstacles are, when we list out why we haven’t succeeded, does that list consist of real obstacles or excuses?  A client tried telling me how her contractors were dictating her schedule.  When I asked why, she had a series of reasons.  Her poor communication style.  It is how the industry works, etc.  Then I listed each reason back to her and ask, “is this an excuse or is this a real obstacle?”  With each one, the answer was that is was an excuse.  It was an excuse that allowed her to not engage her contractors.  Once she was able to admit that she was making excuses to avoid the conflict, we created a series of tactics that allowed her to stand up for herself without creating the conflict she feared.  We also role played the smaller amount of conflict that would happen.  We built up her confidence, improved her motivation, gave her tools and (most importantly) removed her excuses.  The contractors continue to work with her and they no longer dictate her schedule.  I have an excerpt of where some of these excuses are coming from here: Voices within.

List all of the reasons that are holding you back.  For each one, decide if it is a real obstacle or is it an excuse.  Then, create strategies to engage each item on your list.  Even though it may be an excuse, you are still going to have to deal with it.  It will take effort. You can use some of these techniques to get yourself moving.