How do you know when you are successful? How do you know if you are “good” at something? Are other people better at something than you are? A “yardstick” helps you answer all of these questions. Basically a yardstick is a measurement you pick before you start something that tells you if you are achieving the results you want. Your yardstick must be consistent with your goal.
A yardstick works in both personal and professional lives. For example, if your goal is to be president of the company, your yardsticks might include being the first one in the office every morning, being the go-to-person for your boss, getting promotions every year, etc. If your goal is to spend as much time with your family as possible, then your yardstick is when you choose family over other activities.
There are two important things to NOT do. One, do not apply other people’s yardsticks to your own life. Other people have defined their goals differently than you. They have prioritized different aspects of their lives. Two, do not apply your yardsticks to other people. What you value does not apply to them. They have every right to choose their own yardsticks.
We spend much of our lives classifying and judging situations.
It is good.
It is bad.
It is lucky.
It is hectic.
It is just the way things go.
It is like it always is.
When we judge a situation, we have already given it an emotional context. This context will color how we see and explore the situation when we explore it more. It also requires an emotional effort to classify a situation. My wife and I have started reminding each other and I have started reminding my clients of a powerful tool to simplify their emotional clutter and see the situations in their lives more clearly. The tool is simply to stop the sentence after, “It is.”
“It is,” means to accept the situation as it is. Don’t judge it yet. Don’t give it an emotional weight. Simply accept that it is. Then you can start to explore it. You may find that a “lucky” situation was really the result of some clever and hard work. A “hectic” situation may be open to some organization improvements. Accept. Analyze. Act.
In any business relationship there exists the possibility for conflict. It’s like Yin and Yang – there’s good and there’s bad. Many years ago I worked for a company where everyone knew the
Source: Conflict Avoidance Strategies That Work
Several clients have said that our weekly sessions (with accompanying homework) is just too much. They didn’t feel they had enough time to implement the changes we worked on together and maintain their already busy life. By the time we got of the phone and they started working on the homework, it seemed that it was time already for our next session. To address that frustration, I’m now working with clients on weekly, bi-weekly and monthly sessions. The right frequency depends on the client and the client’s situation.
Currently, the bi-weekly seems to be the most popular. Changes take a little longer but the important thing is that the clients are able to move forward and make lasting changes in their lives.
Please reach out to me if you are looking to make positive changes in your business and your life. The majority of my clients are small business owners and executives. Sessions are done by remotely by phone and typically on “off” hours.