You know success comes down to hard work. Now all you need are the tools to help you actually put in the hours.
One of the biggest secrets of success is that over the long run, you will enjoy the level of success you deserve. Yes. Things do happen that are outside of your control but your reactions to those situations will determine your long term success.
Understanding this foundational truth is key to mastering your own level of success. If you are not at the level of success that you want, then you must own that. To reach a higher level of success, you must either work harder or more effectively.
Success over the long run is all about the number of hours consistently applied towards your goal (effort) times the amount of success an average hour delivers (effectiveness). To be more successful, you can either increase your effort or increase your effectiveness. There is simply no other way.
Do you have a New Year’s resolution and are you truly serious about succeeding in it this year? Have you made resolutions in the past and gave up on them? You are not alone. It takes most people eight, nine, ten or more times to finally accomplish their goals.
I’m looking for people to join a New Year’s Resolution mastermind group. This is a mutually supportive group of people looking to succeed in 2016. The group will be a private Facebook group with daily checkins, advice and motivations. The group will go for the first 21 days of January and potentially longer if there is enough interest.
Comment below if you are interested in joining this mastermind group. Like, share and comment to help build a robust support group. Even if you don’t want to join a Mastermind group, someone you know may benefit.
When you first start to tackle a big goal ideas are bouncing around your head. You feel excited. Things are electric. They tingle. You take that first step and it feels so right. Only 10,000 more leagues to go, right Confucius!
The next few steps fly by. Maybe a few more. . . . . . then you look up and the goal is still a long way away. Sure you started the business but no customers yet. You started running but can’t make it to the end of the street without some serious mouth breathing. You made you action plan but have made no actions yet. It isn’t uncommon to lose motivation at this point.
The reality is that motivation comes and goes. It doesn’t stay at 100% all day, every day. Don’t let self-help gurus tell you that your lack of motivation means that your goals wasn’t grand enough. There are two main problems with the idea that grand goals will keep you motivated throughout the process. First, many goals we have in life aren’t grand. Your kid asks you to make costumes for the school play; his and five other “actors.” Your boss asks you to prepare a report on last year’s supply cabinet usage in triplicate incase the board asks about it on their next visit. Really? The board is concerned with staple consumption? Any who does triplicate any more? Who does paper? The truth is a lot of what we do – a lot of what we must do – isn’t about grand goals. There are things that simply must get done. The second problem with the idea that grand goals will keep us motivated is that it simply isn’t true. Many big goals take months or years to accomplish. Thousands of small actions and decisions must align over a long period of time to reach our destination. It is simply not human to think that motivation will not ebb and flow over such a long time.
So what do we do when our motivation is ebbing . . . or is it flowing? Anyway, what do we do when we still have a long way to go and our motivation to move in the right direction isn’t pointing in the right direction? First, realize that keeping on a long path to success is a combination of motivation, determination and positive habits. I’ll talk more about determination and positive habits in separate posts. In this post, I give you five things we can do to perk up motivation when it needs a little help.
First, realize it is ok. Don’t get down on yourself. Sure that warm bed doesn’t want to let you go running today. Those white chocolate lemon balls that Debbie from accounting brought in are right next to the coffee pot and they DO look yummy. And yes, making customer calls when your spouse started mulling some wine and wants snuggle up and watch the snowfall isn’t very appealing. To be tempted is human. It let’s you know that you are still alive.
Second, talk to yourself a bit. Out loud if you must but people will look at you funny. Ask yourself what is behind this moment’s lack of motivation? Is it that progress is too slow? Are you afraid of the next step? Are there obstacles that you haven’t dealt with? Be honest with yourself. Having a little conversation with yourself can either ignite your motivation or, at least, give you an understanding of things that you need to work on. It may lead to process changes in your action plan. For example, maybe it isn’t right for you to go for a run when you leap out of bed if you are not an out of bed leaper. Running may fit better into your life after a nice mosey out of bed and a tall latte.
Third, talk to yourself a little more. If no one tried to commit you after you were talking with yourself in the second step, you are probably ok to keep it up a bit longer. Remind yourself why you are going after this goal. What is it that you are really trying to accomplish and how will you feel when you accomplish it? Which will really give you more satisfaction, moving toward your goal or doing that other thing. I know that some days when I was losing my 50 pounds that extra plate of nachos with an extra handful of cheese was worth the extra 458 calories. Usually it wasn’t but on those days when it was worth it. I had that extra plate and enjoyed it.
Fourth, do something. Action brings outcomes and outcomes bring emotion. Sometimes I’ll keep a list of easier things to accomplish handy. Not necessarily busywork. These are things that need to get done but they are easier to do. Do them now. Pick one and get it done. That should be on a coffee cup somewhere. Pick one and get it done. The only danger here is don’t let yourself slip into doing busy work. Yes, your home office desk might need to be organized weekly but no, that does not include using pledge on the underside of your drawers. Just do what needs to get done.
Fifth, celebrate your successes. Early in the process it may feel like you don’t have a lot of successes or you may be on a plateau somewhere in the middle but you do have successes. Even starting, taking that first step, was a success. If you haven’t lost a pound in a month but you have stuck to the diet/exercise program anyway, that is worthy of success. You haven’t made a sale in two weeks but you pick up the phone every day for another customer call, that is worthy of success. Celebrate you. I know you have something to celebrate. Do it now.
I’m going to throw in a bonus point. I do believe in always giving more than you promised. It is called temptation bundling. Basically, bundle whatever you aren’t motivated to do with a reward (your tempation). Bundle the want to do with the need to do. So yes, you can cuddle with your mulled wine wielding honey . . . . . after you make three calls. Of course you can go out to that new indian buffet . . . . . . but you have to walk there.
Stay positive when you can. Stay productive when you can’t stay positive. Stay ok all the time.
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“I consider my ability to arouse enthusiasm among my people the greatest asset I possess, and the way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement” – Charles Schwab
The New Year is a week away. Are you ready to make resolutions that you will actually keep this year? Studies have shown that as many as 90% of people have abandoned their resolution within six months but it is possible to stack the deck in your favor. You can be one of the 10% who actually keep their resolution and accomplish their goals.
Here are five top tips to make 2016 your most successful year:
1.) Be specific: The more specific your resolutions, the easier it is to set up strategies for success. It is also easier to celebrate successes towards your goals. For example, don’t settle for a resolution to get in shape. Instead, set a goal to hit the gym three times a week for 45 minutes.
2.) Include your inputs as resolutions: As I tell my clients, the three most important words in accomplishing your goals are measure, measure and measured. That have specific measurable goals, measure your efforts (inputs) and have reasonable measured steps to take along the way. Inputs are the efforts you take to reach a larger goal. For example, inputs for losing 30 pounds might be exercise three times a week, pack a healthy lunch four days a week and limit yourself to 1800 calories. Inputs for building a home business might be make ten customer service calls a week, attend two networking events a month and place one ad a month. By including the inputs in your resolutions, you are more likely to make progress. It may be harder to get those five pounds off but you can definitely hit the gym.
3.) Create accountability: External accountability is a powerful force. This could be an exercise buddy, a business group or a life coach. Making commitments to other people make it just that much harder back out of a resolution. Some people have success making bets with competitive family members. Message me before the New Year with your resolution and I’ll send you a daily email with strategies, advice and encouragement for each of the first 15 days of January.
4.) Focus on “the one”: While you may want to lose weight, double your business, write a novel, blog daily, find a spouse, etc., etc., etc. no one can do all of that well. Figure out which of your goals is the most important and make that your resolution. You can make progress toward your other goals but prioritize the big one. Otherwise, it is too easy to become overwhelmed and accomplish none of them.
5.) Create your action plan: Very little gets done with out a good plan or, at least, a good strategy. Don’t just say you are going to get a promotion, create a plan and identify what action steps are necessary to do. Break down your goal into a series of smaller steps that you can accomplish. Some times the big goal can feel a little daunting.
Make 2016 your best year yet. You can do this. Stay positive. Understand that you will stumble and you are not alone.
I’m Jessica Jones. As a Registered Dietitian for a primary care clinic, I counsel hundreds of patients on medical nutrition therapy for weight management, hypertension, diabetes and hyperlipi…
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Time continues to tick by. Days come and go. They add up to weeks and then months. You watch them go by. Still you are not working toward your dream. Perhaps you don’t know what to do. Perhaps you are afraid of failing. You’ve told yourself what you want. Maybe you told others. You’ve started working toward your dream many times. You bought the exercise bike, you looked up businesses online and you did the research. You just never got very far.
Every time you try and then fail, your internal monologue has more proof to use against you when you try again. It becomes harder to try. It becomes easier to listen to the negative voice that holds you back.
First, you must understand that you are not alone. It normally takes people eight times to accomplish their New Year’s Resolutions – that is once a year for eight years – if they ever accomplish their goals at all. Many people try a number of different diet plans or start a number of businesses before they find the one that works for them. The secret isn’t that the diet was wrong or the business was wrong, the person wasn’t able to overcome their internal objections and monologues.
As a business and life coach, I can help you break out of of this cycle. In 90 days, we can create a plan, build motivation and overcome your internal obstacles. In 90 days, we can get you on a path for amazing growth. Reach out now. Email me at WolskiSuccessPartners@gmail.com to start working together in the new year and make it your best year ever.